Words of Advice for the Newly Married

Bill has performed three weddings in the past seven days. And yesterday was our 43rd anniversary. So in that vein, if you were going to give advice to newlyweds about how to make a marriage work, what would you say?

COMMITMENT

First, commit your lives individually to the Lord. Then commit your marriage to Him. 

COMMUNICATE

The last time I checked, I couldn’t find anyone who could read minds. Talk. Listen. Put yourself in the other’s shoes. Be honest with each other. 

DREAM TOGETHER

Some of the best ideas come because of brainstorming. Think together outside the box.

FIGHT FAIR

Disagreements come but they don’t have to be ugly. Never raise your voice to your spouse. Never express “strong opinions” toward each other in front of others — especially not your children. And NEVER go to bed angry. 

TITHE

According to the Bible, everything we have belongs to the Lord. So giving 10% of what we have to ministry is the least we can do. And do it we should. 

BE VULNERABLE 

Sharing your insecurities with your spouse should not make you feel weak. In fact, a thoughtful, supportive spouse will empower you to face your issues and will help you be stronger. 

LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY 

Be patient and kind with each other. Approach things with humility and unselfishness. (Think 1 Corinthians 13.)

ENJOY LIFE

Don’t take things too seriously. Have fun. Be silly. Laugh freely. 

LORD, Bless these newly wed couples. May they put their marriages in your hands. May you be glorified through them.