"Kat Fight"

Dealing with Hurt Feelings

One of my friends -- "Katrina" -- told me this story. 

When she was working at a job many years ago, there was one woman -- "Sandy" -- who was particularly intimidated by her. She made life very difficult on the work front, accusing her of things she had not done, etc. At first, Katrina was hurt by the fabrications but was determined not to give in to the temptation to retaliate. Interestingly, over time, she realized that the other co-workers didn't much like Sandy and hadn't really believed what she had said anyway. But still, the hurt was deep. Why would she try to discredit her like that?

One day, Sandy announced that she was resigning and moving to another business in town. Her two week notice almost gone, Kristina realized that no one was throwing a going away party for Sandy. Convinced that it was the right thing to do, even though she really hadn't gotten over the hurt feelings, Katrina coordinated a nice little party for Sandy. The other co-workers were glad to come and eat snacks and cake, but that was about it. During that party, Sandy realized that it was Katrina who had put it all together. With tears in her eyes, she hugged her and thanked her and acted like she was her best friend. Katrina was -- well -- speechless.

Over the next few years, Katrina's and Sandy's paths crossed a few times. Sandy always treated Katrina like a long-lost friend. They never talked about their differences. No apologies were ever given. But somehow Katrina's unexpected kindness had done the trick.

Did you know that "kill them with kindness" is not Scripture? Even so, it seemed to put to death the ill-feelings in this story. Do you have a "hurt feelings" story that ended well? Feel free to message me if you'd rather keep it private. Or respond below for everyone to see.

Lord, whenever hurt feelings grip us, show us how to respond in a way that would bring you glory.